Here we are knee deep in a pandemic. Who saw that coming? Of course, it has raised all sorts of mental health issues – from anxiety and depression to cabin fever and the negative effects of isolation. I will probably go into those and what to do about them at some stage, but for now […]
Motion vs Action
I was reading Atomic Habits by James Clear last week. There were lots of interesting things but there was one that really struck me – the concept of motion vs action. Basically, when we’re trying to get stuff done, we have 2 processes. Motion is the planning, researching, organising process. And the actual doing of […]
Why You Should Put Important Things First (rocks, pebbles, sand continued)
You might remember the rocks, pebbles, sand story from last time. If you haven’t read it read this 1st https://www.healgrowtransform.com.au/changing-mindsets/best-time-management-tool-for-making-you-happy/ or this won’t make sense. I promised I’d tell you the psychological reasons for making room for rocks first and why we get caught up in the smaller things instead. Firstly, we tend to get […]
Best Time Management Tool for Making You Happy
I have a story for you. “A philosophy professor stands in front of a class with a big glass jar. He puts rocks in the jar, right to the brim. He asks the class if the jar is full. Obviously they answer yes. He then puts pebbles in the jar, jiggles it a bit so […]
Strategies for Personal Growth
If the new year is always a good time to set new goals, then a new decade must be better right! If you’ve been reading my blogs for a while you’ll know that I’m not a fan of New Year’s Resolutions. Research says they’re rubbish and we don’t really stick to them. But…there are other […]
How to Manage Emotions – the Best Way Ever
Managing emotions is one of the most important things in life. It helps in relationships, at work, and how we feel on a daily basis. The more we’re able to recognise, label and modulate our emotions, the more successful we are both socially and at work. Managing emotions, or emotion regulation, is a skill we […]
Build Your Self-Esteem
Sometimes I think we have the world back-to-front. We don’t want to try things until we feel confident to do them. We don’t want to put ourselves out there until our self-esteem is up to handling it. For example, we don’t want to try dating in case we’re rejected. Or we don’t want to try […]
A Step Towards Resilience
There’s no denying that sometimes things can feel overwhelming. And that it can feel like everything is getting on top of you. Or that things are so bad there seems no way out. Or that right now you’re so anxious that nothing could soothe you. We usually have habitual ways of dealing with these uncomfortable […]
HOW TO TALK BETTERER: THE FUNDAMENTALS OF GOOD COMMUNICATION #2
OWN YOUR SH*T or Using “I” Messages So last time we spoke about the importance of being a good listener. If you missed it check it out here. Another super-important communication skill is being a good sender (of the message you want to convey). Just like listening, this is not a skill we’re born with […]
HOW TO TALK BETTERER: THE FUNDAMENTALS OF GOOD COMMUNICATION #1
We assume communicating is something we all should know. We use words and sentences all the time right? We’re speaking the same language. What could possibly go wrong? Well, as you would know, a LOT can go wrong. Communication is a skill. Some of us were lucky enough to grow up in a family that […]
Change: How to Adjust Your Expectations for a Better Outcome
I’ve had a lot of people lately going through career change. We talk about how to navigate the process and expectations. And we talk about how it takes a long time to settle in to something new. It got me thinking: I reckon all change is like that. So I’m going to share what I […]
Why Do We Remember Criticism over Praise?
You’re out meeting new people, chatting and laughing. Everyone has been complimentary, commenting on how lovely you are, saying you must catch up again and asking for your number. You feel on top of the world. And then you over hear someone say “I don’t know what people see in her. I just don’t rate […]
How to Build Your Emotional Intelligence
If you want to give yourself the best chance in life, working on your emotional intelligence is a must. Emotional intelligence (EQ) has been found to be related to all kinds of fabulous things like – better relationships (romantic and platonic), better academic and work performance, and fewer mental health issues. There is even some […]
Move Over New Year’s Resolutions. Here’s Something that Works
I love to steal good ideas from people. Unfortunately my integrity stops me from claiming them as my own or you would all think I’m brilliant by now. This particular idea came hot on the heels of talk about New Year’s Resolutions. I’m not sure if you’ve read my previous blogs on New Year’s Resolutions […]
A Free Personality Test for You
There’s a personality test that is HUGELY famous in the psychology world. It’s based on the Five Factor Personality Model (nicknamed The Big 5). Who doesn’t love finding out more about themselves? And who doesn’t love having an explanation of their character spat out at the end of a series of questions? And that’s just […]