Sometimes I think we have the world back-to-front. We don’t want to try things until we feel confident to do them. We don’t want to put ourselves out there until our self-esteem is up to handling it.
For example, we don’t want to try dating in case we’re rejected. Or we don’t want to try out for that new job in case we’re not good enough.
The truth is that none of that self-esteem or confidence comes to us unless we are first brave.
When we’re brave we try.
Trying builds our confidence.
Trying is a doorway to better self-esteem.
But…..trying can result in failure. And the idea of that scares us and keeps us small.
And that’s what makes us doubt ourselves.
And that’s what affects our self-esteem.
The idea of what could happen.
Not the actual ‘getting out there’ and doing.
If we were brave and put ourselves out there we would build our self-esteem.
If we tried, knowing we could fail and understood that failing is an integral part of being trying, we would build our confidence.
So what if you were to stop living in the back-to-front world – even just for a day – and put yourself out there before having the confidence or self-esteem to do it?