What you may not know, is that the concept of work being our source of meaning and purpose, and the thing we should pour ourselves into it wholeheartedly, is relatively new. It wasn’t that long ago that our job was a means to an end – to provide money for the enjoyment of life outside […]
Observations from My Life
Last month we adopted a Chocolate Labrador who had been a victim of the floods in Lismore. He lost his family, his home and all the safety he had known. The poor little guy had to swim to safety while his human family waited to be rescued on the roof of their house. His beloved […]
Wellbeing – How to Achieve It
Wellbeing is a complex little construct. It encompasses our physical, mental, emotional and social health. We associate it with happiness and life satisfaction. And let’s face it, the idea of it just feels good. Wouldn’t it be wonderful to lie permanently in a state of wellbeing? So how do we do that? There are many […]
Welcome to 2022 – Meaning and Inspiration
Just as we thought we were heading into a reasonable ‘new normal’ with fewer restrictions and more freedoms we get hit with this ‘new normal’ which is frankly, a bit shit. I went from not knowing anyone in my personal life who had covid to wondering who doesn’t have it. That’s an exaggeration of course […]
How Would You Spend Your Time?
My partner, Jon, is reading a book about time. Time is an interesting thing. It is a completely non-renewable resource. Once we’ve used it we can never get it back. So we have to think about using it wisely. And by wise, I do not necessarily mean sensible. But I’ll get to that later. In […]
Pandemic Fatigue – It’s an Actual Thing
If you’ve been feeling out of sorts lately – irritable, down, anxious – you are most likely suffering from Pandemic Fatigue. Pandemic Fatigue is an actual condition. If you think about it, look at what we’ve been facing for a good 18 months: Changes to how we do almost everything Not being able to plan […]
How to Manage the Meh of Covid
Let’s face it – most of us are feeling a little Meh about Covid. We’re locking down, closing borders, wearing masks and having our lives changed in subtle and not so subtle ways. And it looks like there’s no end in sight. Of course we feel a bit Meh sometimes. So here’s a list of […]
The Importance of Kindness
I quite often recommend John Gottman’s Marriage Minute to clients. It’s an email that comes maybe weekly or fortnightly and takes about a minute to read. Very helpful stuff for relationships. One of my clients who subscribed told me about one that I missed about killing it with kindness. Basically, no matter what, be kind […]
The One Thing You Need for Next Year
New Years and Better Humans We’re funny creatures, us humans. Landmarks in time are super important to us and can often inspire us to make important changes. As we approach the end of the year – and an especially challenging year at that – we often start looking for the meaning and significance this year […]
2020 Sh*ttest Year Ever? Here’s How to Make it Better
We are rapidly drawing the close of another year. Normally at this time I recommend reflecting on the year just gone but seriously – who wants to! There have been so many things that have been less than amazing to say the least. However, in amongst all of the crap, I’m betting you can find […]
Why You Should Challenge Yourself
Jon and I were talking the other day about dealing with life’s challenges. Jon made an interesting point. He said “You feel the same about what’s in front of you, regardless of the context.” In other words, the biggest challenge you’re facing now, will feel the same as the biggest challenge someone else is facing, […]
What to do with Worry
Unfortunately there are plenty of things for us to worry about these days. Covid-19, global warming, uncertain financial markets and all the little everyday things that we face (the ones that are too numerous to mention. Worry can wreak havoc in our lives. It can disturb our sleep, occupy our mind, impair our memory and […]
You Have 6200 Thoughts a Day – What Will You Do With Yours?
It is official: we have 6200 thoughts a day. A study from Queens University in Ontario measured how often we shifted from one thought to the next (through some very fancy scientific methods that we don’t need to go into here). They called each of these a thought worm. Unfortunately I’m quite visual and now […]
Keep Calm and Stay Resilient
So last time we talked about what resilience is and the 1st step in starting to create more resilience during these challenging times. This time we’re going to talk about how to calm the bleep down and keep our cool even when there’s a lot of crap going on. First of all we need […]
Keeping Resilient – Covid Style
Here we are knee deep in a pandemic. Who saw that coming? Of course, it has raised all sorts of mental health issues – from anxiety and depression to cabin fever and the negative effects of isolation. I will probably go into those and what to do about them at some stage, but for now […]
