So if you sh*t talk yourself then there’s a very good chance that your self-esteem needs a tweak.
When your self-esteem is lower than it should be, you tend to:
- think negative things about yourself (and believe them),
- say some pretty mean sh*t to yourself (to the point that if I ask a client to say out loud to me the sh*t they say to themselves, they can’t, because it’s too mean),
- see only the worst in yourself – the ‘faults’ and ‘flaws’ (and find it hard to recognise or acknowledge the good things),
- think other people are better than you (and keep reminding yourself why they are), and
- have a pretty strong fear of failure (because then it will be confirmed just how rubbish you are).
So many things to sh*t talk yourself for. And so many ways to be the world’s biggest arsehole to yourself.
Let’s get the definition for shit talk.
Straight from wiktionary, shit talk is defined as “untruthfully speaking deprecatively or offensively about another person”. With ‘another person’ being you.
First, let’s put some enormous emphasis on UNTRUTHFULLY.
A negative self-evaluation is quite often based on zero evidence.
Yup that’s right – zero evidence.
So the negative self-talk is actually UNTRUTHFUL.
What do you think would happen if you started to challenge the validity of your negative self-statements?
What if you decided that the sh*t talk was a lie? Untruthful. And stopped looking for tiny bits of proof that it’s true?
Maybe you could start to improve your self-esteem.
Maybe you could start to be more confident in the world.
Maybe you could find more joy in your daily life.
Why don’t you give it a go?