I was walking the lighthouse path in Byron Bay this morning, thinking about how much coaching has helped me over the last few years.
Most people have dreams of something being better – more money, more free time, less weight, happier relationships, finding their passion in life. We’re so lucky to be in a country that allows us to focus on improving our lives rather than “where is my next meal coming from?” and “will I ever have clean water to drink?”.
For some of us the path to a better life is pretty straightforward and we can do it ourselves. Sometimes though, it’s so much quicker and so much easier having someone to guide you, encourage you and inspire you.
I know for myself I have dreams of developing big group coaching programs. I love the one-to-one aspect of my business but I also love the group dynamic. It can be a bit more playful, less intense for the people attending and really supportive and fun (as you’d know if you’ve been to one of the group programs at my office).
I tried for a few years to get this dream off the ground on my own. It didn’t work too well. I didn’t get any traction, so didn’t feel I was getting anywhere. I hadn’t done anything like it before so I didn’t know what the next step was. I would get confused, overwhelmed, and disheartened. And then I would try something else because I thought what I was doing wasn’t working. And the same thing would happen all over again.
So I got myself a coach. We mapped out a plan based on my big picture, my dreams, and my values. And when I got caught in “OMG what am I doing? I’m so lost” my coach would help me get focused and stay on track and make progress and see how taking things to the next level was actually possible.
Imagine if you had that kind of support as you were trying to reach your goals! From a girl who grew up having to be overly independent, I can’t tell you how great it is to have other people help you. Are you trying to do too much on your own?
So anyway, while I’ve been making all this progress I’ve also been overcoming some of the psychological things that have held me back from being as successful as I dream of.
My family had a total poverty mentality. It was not acceptable to be too happy and definitely not ok to be confident. So as I’m reaching for my dreams, I’m coming up against all these things and sabotaging myself on the way. You have to be confident to put yourself out there. So if I don’t actually get to the point of putting myself out there then I don’t break the family rules of being humble and flying under the radar. If I don’t actually let myself be successful and make more money then I don’t have to break the family rule of “there’s never enough”.
Lucky for me I grew to recognise these little snags and have been changing these beliefs. So one day I will reach my goals and be disgustingly happy about it.
If you have dreams and don’t know where to start, get yourself a coach. If you have dreams and struggle to reach them, get yourself a coach who is also a psychologist.
I’ll keep you posted on my progress.