I would have to say one of the most common issues people come to me with are relationship problems. I have so many people come to me saying they’re down or dissatisfied with life or they should be happy because they seem to have everything but they’re just not.
Sometimes they don’t even realise it’s unhappy. They’re just kind of used to it. They say things like “we don’t fight that much” or “we get on ok” but digging reveals that there isn’t much connection or their partners are not very responsive or that for one or the other there’s a faint air of giving up.
If you’re not getting the goods from your relationship I can pretty guarantee you will be unhappy.
The research says that being in a good relationship improves your physical health, your immune system is stronger, you’re emotionally stronger, and you do better in the world generally.
On the other hand, being in a distressed or disconnected relationship increases your chances of becoming depressed and has the opposite effect on everything the good relationship makes better.
So making your relationship work should be a number one priority.
The problem a lot of people face is that they’re keen to come to couples therapy to make their relationship better but their partner is not.
If this is you – fret not!
While nothing beats getting the two of you in a room, it is possible to do couples therapy with just one of you.
You’ll be surprised how making a few small changes can create big differences in your relationship.
And who doesn’t want their relationship to be as good as is humanly possible?